These are just some of the less traditional readings our couples have used or recommended.
QUOTE BY MARK TWAIN:
A marriage makes two fractional lives a whole;
It gives two purposeless lives a work and doubles the
strength of each to perform it;
It gives two questioning natures a reason for living, and
something to live for;
It will give a new gladness to the sunshine,
A new fragrance to the flowers,
A new beauty to the earth,
And a new mystery to life.
“LIVING IN LOVE” BY GERALD G. MAY
There is a desire within each of us,
in the deep center of ourselves
that we call our heart.
We were born with it,
it is never completely satisfied,
and it never dies.
We are often unaware of it,
but it is always awake.
It is the Human desire for Love.
Every person in this Earth yearns to love,
to be loved, to know love.
Our true identity, our reason for being
is to be found in this desire.
Love is the “why” of life,
why we are functioning at all.
I am convinced
it is the fundamental energy
of the human spirit.
the fuel on which we run,
the wellspring of our vitality.
which is the flowing,
creative activity, of love itself,
is what makes all goodness possible.
Love should come first,
it should be the beginning of,
and the reason for everything.
QUOTE FROM MARGERY WILLIAMS’ “THE VELVETEEN RABBIT”
“What is REAL?” asked the velveteen Rabbit one day, when
they were lying side by side in the nursery. “Does it mean
having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”
“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a
thing that happens to you. When someone loves you for a
long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you,
then you become Real.”
“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.
“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always
truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”
“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked,
“or bit by bit?”
“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You
become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen
often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or
who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are
Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes
drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby.
But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are
Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t
understand. Once you are Real you can’t become unreal
again. It lasts for always.”
“OH, THE PLACES YOU’LL GO” BY DR. SEUSS
(The full book is not posted here for copyright reasons.)
“TO THE HEART OF FRIENDSHIP” BY ANONYMOUS
Here’s to the heart of friendship, tried and true,
That laughs with us when joys our pathway strew;
And kneels with us when sorrow, like a pall,
Enshrouds our stricken souls; then smiles through all
The midnight gloom with more than human faith.
Here’s to the love that seeks not self, and hath
No censure for our frailty, but doth woo,
By gentle arts, our spirits back into
The way of truth; then sheds upon our lives
A radiance that all things else survives.
“I CARRY YOUR HEART” BY e.e. cummings:
i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it
(anywhere i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
i fear no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet)
i want no world (for beautiful, you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;
which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart
i carry it in my heart
QUOTE FROM MADELEINE L’ENGLE
But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for a their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.